If you set resolutions every January only to lose momentum a few weeks later, you’re not alone. Many people want the fresh start that a new year brings, but turning goals into lasting habits can feel overwhelming or impossible.
Still, goal setting is a powerful tool. It keeps you focused, clarifies what matters to you, and offers a sense of direction and purpose. When goals connect to your values and the person you want to become, they can help guide meaningful, sustainable change.
Why New Year’s Resolutions Are Hard to Maintain
The start of a new year often comes with motivation, energy, and optimism. But the same excitement that inspires resolutions can also make them harder to maintain. Many goals created in January are:
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Too vague
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Unrealistic or overly ambitious
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Based on an all or nothing mindset
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Exciting in theory but lacking true personal meaning
People usually know where they want to end up, but the path to get there is seldom clear. Without structure, support, or a sense of connection to the goal, motivation fades quickly.
Why Resolutions Feel Impossible to Stick With
If sticking to resolutions has been a struggle, consider the common barriers:
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The process feels tedious or like a chore
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Goals feel obligatory rather than self-inspired
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A full year feels overwhelming
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The timeline encourages procrastination
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Perfectionism quickly turns into discouragement
When a goal feels too big or too distant, it’s easy to postpone it and gradually forget about it altogether.
Instead of starting the year with an all or nothing plan, focus on reshaping the way you think about your goals.
Tips for Setting Realistic, Achievable Goals
Small shifts in your approach can make a big difference in your ability to follow through. Try using the following strategies:
Start with small, manageable steps
If something feels difficult to begin, break it down even further so the task feels doable rather than overwhelming.
Avoid tasks that require more than one hour
Set aside consistent time to work toward your goal but keep it realistic. Short, regular effort is more sustainable than long, draining sessions.
Remember that goals are flexible
You can update or modify your goals as your needs change. Adjusting your plan is not a failure. It’s part of healthy growth.
Connect your goals to existing habits
Pairing a new habit with a routine you already do makes the change easier to remember and sustain.
Share your goals with someone you trust
Accountability, whether through writing progress down or involving a friend or family member, increases consistency.
Celebrate small wins
Even small steps forward deserve recognition. Progress reinforces motivation.
Be patient and kind to yourself
Change takes time. Imperfection is normal. Being forgiving with yourself supports long term success.
By shifting the way you think about goals and developing a plan that fits your lifestyle, you increase your chances of creating meaningful and lasting change.
Find Goal Setting Strategies That Work for You
If these challenges sound familiar and you find yourself losing steam each year, therapy can help. You don’t have to wait for January to begin making changes. You can start today.
Together, we can create goals that feel meaningful, realistic, and aligned with your values.
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written by: Katie Abendschoen, Intern Therapist